Behaviour – My Child Bothers Others in Class

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     Let’s face it, who wants to admit that their own child bothers others?  We, as parents, don’t want to ‘see’ that our own child might be the problem.  Unfortunately, denying that our own child is a problem won’t help him.

     It is difficult for us to help our child change his/her behaviour especially if we are not physically there in the classroom.  There are ways, though, that you can help your child interact appropriately in the classroom.

·         Write a contract with your child incorporating behavioural expectations, rewards, and punishments.  Have your child play an active part in designing the contract.

·         Don’t allow your child to use ADD/ADHD as an excuse.  Your child should take responsibility for his own actions.  How else is he going to become responsible to improve his behaviour if he doesn’t fess up to his problem areas?

·         Teach your child to monitor his own behaviour.  Ask him exactly what happened in class and discuss with him what was wrong with his behaviour and how he ‘should’ have acted.

·         Try to ‘catch’ your child acting inappropriately when you and your child are with family and friends with children.  If you can catch him interacting inappropriately, stop him and discuss the situation.

·         Enroll your child in an after school activity that promotes discipline such as martial arts, music, structured sports and so on.

·         Communicate with your child’s teacher.  Have your child’s teacher write a note to you about your child’s good and ‘not so good’ social behaviour.  Make sure that you praise and/or reward your child for proper socialization and deliver consequences (that you drafted in your contract with your child) if he bothers others.

·         Try to purchase books that illustrate how inappropriate social behaviours can be corrected.  For younger students, I prefer Franklin and Berenstain Bears books.

·         If you really want to make a serious effort, do some role playing scenarios with your child. Involve other kids and family members. 

·         Be a good role model.  When you are with your child and other adults, point out to your child how you interact with your friends.

    It is understandable that it’s hard to admit that our own child is the problem.  It’s more important though, to accept it and correct it.

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