Let’s face it, we all know someone who is too nice and we know what happens to them.  They get taken advantage of, walked all over by others, and exploited.

     If your child is too nice, it’s no different.  Your child may be ‘too’ nice because he or she wants to fit in.  By being too nice, your child is trying to get other kids to like him or her.  Your child is unknowingly letting others get what they want at the expense of your child generosity.  You want your child to be nice and at the same time have self-respect and pride.

     When you get a chance, sit down with your child and discuss the difference between being nice and too nice.  Use specific examples to demonstrate your point. 

For example:

·         Let your child know that it is nice to offer part of his snack to a friend but not his entire snack. 

·         It is nice to let someone take your turn in a game but not for the whole time. 

·         It is nice to lend someone a toy but not if they don’t let you play.

·         It is nice to help someone with their schoolwork but not if they copy all of your hard work.

·         It is nice to contribute in a group but not if you have to do all the work.

     Explain to your child that being accepted is not as important as your child’s pride and self-worth.  Let your child know that if other kids take advantage of your child then they are not worth being friends with.